January 7th 2013

He lies and attempts to manipulate he wrote this moments after officers left the house he couldn't convince them of the lie I was hitting him so he tried a new tactic to get control

The red listened is my response to this fake attempt to make amends he is attempting to regain control as per instructed by Frank Castro Jr. he had just finished lieing to two police officers telling them I hit him and I never did any such thing. 





Dawn Marshall <mummx4@yahoo.com>

To

yvette.rodriguez@bsts.state.tx.us

01/07/13 at 11:01 AM

Friday, January 04, 2013

Dear Dawn,

I am writing this letter, to clearly express my thoughts, feelings and hopes to you.  I love you.  Over the last month I have missed you, your kind words, words of encouragement, the way you light up my life, the way you give me hope, the way you inspire me to be a better husband, father and man.  I look back on our relationship and I remember all the good times.  The way you told me it would all work out when we were losing our home in Denton. The way you told me that we would be ok when we moved to Texas.  The way you expressed your emotionally support for me when I lost my job with MRO Direct.  The way you defended and encouraged me to stand up for myself, when I was being attacked by Doug TRW.  I could list a thousand more incidents where I have felt your love and respect, but I want to keep this letter short and to the point. I have taken you for granted and I regret doing so. I do love you with all my heart, I know that I have not communicated that, let alone in your love langue and for that I am truly sorry.  I am sorry and hope that you can forgive me. 

We have had our bad times too.  I know that I have caused you great pain and I see that every day and I feel sad, shame and guilt. I want us to heal.  I want us to learn from these experiences both good and bad. I want us to be a better family, a healthier family, even if we are not married. I don’t want to fight with you.  I will give you anything you want, as long as it does not hurt our family.

If you want a divorce, I will not fight you.  I will sign the papers, even though it is not what I want.  I want us to be a loving, caring, health family.  But, I respect your wishes and will do what you ask of me.  Yes I want a divorce and I have been telling you that for years and you have never respected my wishes. And the other thing I ask of you is to move out immediately.

In the meantime, we have a beautiful family that we need to provide for. Yes we have to provide for our children and you were gone for a month and you did not find work. You lied to the unemployment office and said you were actively looking for work and you never were. After my conversation with CPS (Auray & Marisa), it is clear to me that our children are crying out for help.  That our fighting is what is causing them the most pain.  Our fighting is causing the most pain? I agree and that’s why it is clear to me that you need to move. However you have made it clear you are unwilling to move so I’m left with no other choice than to find another home for the children and I and the daycare. It’s very sad that you are so selfish to make this family move the children and I don’t want to move but you have given us no other choice. I remember the weekend before Marisa visited us, you were fearful that you were going to be sent to jail, that you were the one being investigated and the one who would be cited by CPS. This is an untrue statement and you are violating your own rules outlined here by bearing false witness. I realize that everything happens for a reason.  I need to be the one cited by CPS, it was the only way at that time for me to understand and take full responsibility for my part in the dynamics that has cause our family this pain. I can hear you now, saying it was my entire fault… This is another false statement I never said it is entirely your fault or your doing. Either way, I feel that we both need to take responsibility to heal our family, to get them the help they need, the help we need to answer our children’s cry for help. I believe each of us should concentrate on ourselves and what we are doing to improve the environment of our home, we can only change ourselves. I have already scheduled family counseling for our children. So I feel offended that you are assuming I am not taking responsibility for our children’s healing. I don’t think this attitude will improve our communication and it won’t move us closer to healing.

I suggest the following plan.  I am open to any of your suggestions and I am willing to draft or you can draft a plan which will accomplish our goal of healing our family by getting the help that we all need, by working together we create a loving, caring environment for them and answering our children’s cry for help. I suggest that we both sign and date it, agreeing to the outlined actions. I understand that you feel, that I am unable to live up to any agreement, but this is design to protect your interest along with mine and to benefit our children.  If I agree and don’t adhere to it, then I am willing to suffer the consequences from a judge, CPS or any other authority.

·        We agree to the goal of healing our family by getting the help that we all need, by working together we create a loving, caring environment for them in either this home or our separate homes and answering our children’s cry for help.  In our separate homes is the only exceptable condition for me.

·        We both work closely with CPS family department by honestly communicating our concerns, fears and hopes.  In addition, the action plan that we have agreed to and be open to any suggestions that they will have on helping us to accomplish our goal.

·        That everyone in our family enroll  and participate in individual counseling, family counseling and for you and I to participate in marriage counseling, if for no other reason other than us to be functioning, healthy, loving co-parents for our children.  Meeting with our individual counselor at least once a week for a period of at least 6 months. Family and marriage counseling schedule should be agreed upon with our counselor(s). The organization(s) that we agree to, their cost needs to fit our budget and allow this family to be financially sound, along with giving us the resources need for us to heal. Family counseling has already been scheduled and it is the counselors that the CPS have suggested and approved. If it costs money than I will do whatever it takes to pay the bill and we will go as long as the counselors feel we should go, when the professionals tell us we have received enough counseling at that time only will we discontinue the counseling.

·        That you and I agree to attend and graduate classes for anger management, parenting and dealing with ADHD /or ADD children classes. I have already begun these classes offered by my church and the state of Texas also I have begun a support group for other parents of ADHD children. I also have my own therapist who I have been seeing for a year now and I have been medicated for that same year and I do not deviate from my meds even when you told me I wasn’t allowed to purchase my meds. So I will respectfully decline any advice or demands by you in this topic.

·        That you and I agree to participate in San Antonio Dispute Resolution Center to draft and agree upon the steps we are going to take to create a 100% fight free zone at our home, in front our children or within hearing distant of our children.  No I will not drive across town to a dispute center several times, I will however agree to Dr. Harleys’ no contact plan for 6 months.

o   In the meantime, I would suggest that we avoid any fighting, drinking or anything that would cause a negative emotional outburst in front of our children.  I agree to this and would like to add that it would be helpful if you quit calling police officers and claiming I am stealing your possessions, now that the police officers have made it clear what you own is what I own and vice versa maybe you can avoid trying to make me look evil and bad.

o   That when making any comments regarding the other parent in front of the children. We either don’t say anything at all or only positive thing about the other parent. I agree so does that mean you will stop teaching our children to call mommy garbage? And when you decide you aren’t taking them to the store with you could please refrain from telling the children that it’s mommies’ fault? In other words can I stop being your scape-goat?

o   In addition, if we find ourselves slipping or getting to a point where we would find ourselves violating the points above such as the 100% fight free zone, negative emotional outburst or any kind of negative criticism for the other parent, etc.. That the parent who is experiencing this, will agree to leave the house, seeking space away from the children to process our feeling, resolving any issues before returning home.

o   If we need to discuss something that could possibly lead to a fight, that we agree upon a public place (so you want to air our dirty laundry in public? No thanks we’ll allow the courts and the friend of the court control this problem) away from our home and children to discuss it. If we are unable to leave the home, which we park the issue until we can do so.  If we are unable to put the issue aside, then we need to adhere to the point above.

·        That you and I agree to participate in San Antonio Dispute Resolution Center to draft and agree upon the steps we are going to take to create separate sufficient living arrangements suitable for caring for our children.  You already said this now you are wasting my valuable time.

o   In the meantime, I agree to find any kind of work that will generate income to help support our house, bills and children.  And continue to look for work with sufficient pay to support a life style that our children have grown accustom too.

o   I am not sure what is going on with the daycare, if you are able to maintain the licensed for a home daycare. You know full well I can not run my daycare when you are here  I will assist and support you anyway possible, as long as I am allowed to by the state (you are not allowed by the state and many of my daycare violations were caused by me trusting you, so no I do not want your assistance). and it does not conflict with me creating my own income. I will help administrate, market, sales, etc.  All I would ask that I am not left alone with the daycare kids for an extended period of time (1hr) during the weekday, during working hours (9am – 6pm)You will never be left alone with any children again so don’t worry yourself.  If you need further assistance, then we need to agree to this prior to any changes, OK the changes are you no longer get your hands dirty with my daycare thank you for the thought but I did myself while you were gone and I will continue to do so.

o   If you are not able to run the daycare.  Then I would ask you to find any kind of work that will generate an income, So you are going to tell me what I will or won’t do for a living according to your comfort zone? Sorry I don’t think so looking for work with sufficient pay to support a life style that our children have grown accustom too. In other words you are telling me you willing to shut down the daycare just so you can live here free of paying bills and paying for groceries?

o   That we split the bills within reason.  The reason I say that, if you are running the daycare from our home or renting out a room, etc.  That additional expense and income need to be calculated in a fair way to insure that we are both paying a fair, just amount of the bills. LOL thanks again for the laugh you can split bills with someone else—it would be extremely difficult for us to come to an agreement on expenses when there is such a long emotional connection it might be doable if we were strangers but we are not.

o   At this time, we will need to draft a budget together, signing it, including paying any pass due bills to insure that we are able to maintain our children’s housing.

o   That any income that we generate left after we have met our responsibilities of supporting our children will be ours to save or spend as we wish. It will be consider our separate funds, even during the divorce proceeding. LOL—What? Lol thank you for including humor! It must be very difficult for you to no longer have control of every penny in and out of this home; however this will remain the policy and we will allow the courts to dictate the amount of child support you will be required to pay and the support will funnel through the friend of the court because you cannot be trusted to pay. Society created these things called credit reports to determine if someone can be trusted to pay their bills and use credit wisely.

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·        That you and I agree to participate in any kind of outside resolution when we are faced with an issue that we can’t come to a written mutual agreement to resolve it, wonderful thank you, my attorney will be touch.

By signing below, we agree the following points, agreements and actions.  If we are to agree to changes any points listed above or add items on the list it must be in a written mutual agreement.  It will require both our signatures indicating our mutual agreement.

Love,(there’s no love in this thing bearing false witness again? At least there’s the slightest bit of consistency)

I will not speak to you if you are not wearing your hearing aids if hearing what I am saying isn’t important enough to put in your hearing aids then don’t initiate a conversation and as far as initiating conversations – several police officers that you called to our home asked us to stay away from each other so could you do as they say and stay out of my grill? Thank you very much! Please note that when you were away from this home not once did police officers get called and our children were sleeping at night and NOT up all night as they are now.

Greg

Gregory J. Marshall Jr. – Signature		Date
		NEVER
Dawn M. Neering / Marshall – Signature(my name is not marshall you don’t own me.).		Date
Witness Name & Signature		Date

I will not sign this I do not agree the person whose boundaries are being violated needs to leave the home? Certainly this insures you won’t be the one leaving the home!

No I don’t agree that our fighting is the sole cause of the children’s cry for help when Aadyan just got done telling me that he doesn’t have any bruises from you and therefore you must have changed. Aadyan doesn’t understand that one week without abuse does not constituent real change.

If you are unable to admit and own the abuse you have inflicted on the family then there is no or very little hope for change. Having you here in this home has only caused more confusion and dismay you are unable and unwilling to own the hurt you have caused and there is nothing here that indicates that you plan on making amends. You can tell someone you love them all day everyday but without actions that support the statement it is just words and nothing